The angry child – how to deal with him
The angry child
A book as a child psychologist Dr. Timothy Murphy, entitled “the Angry: regaining control when your child is the child check” remember that some anger and some explosions are normal in all children. This article will address the pre-adolescent angry or teenager.
When and how did everything change? One day the child normally sunny, cooperative, pleasant, that rarely have had an explosion of anger turns to someone you know hardly-someone who seems to go out of his way of being angry.Now it comes with outbursts of anger and ugly battles on every little thing. And soon angry outbursts, but those really ugly you frustrate so you say things you shouldn’t and all parties injured and fearful the forthcoming battle.
Dealing with the angry child can be a real challenge. feels held hostage of your teen anger, challenge and outbursts. Are you embarrassed and angry and even intimidated so that boils down to say or do what you know, that you should, precisely to avoid the next blowup.
Something is horribly, horribly wrong and is tearing, your son and the whole family in pieces just painful. You are adults, and you know that you need to understand what is happening and how to deal with it and fix it.
But how do you do that? How to get out at the end of it when the angry child, defiant thinks that you don’t understand anything, and when he does not open. You try to relate, but you get nothing. You’re afraid that if you don’t get things turned around, the angry, defiant child can turn into an angry, defiant adult-unhappy, aggressive and possibly also in trouble with the law.
Angry child, never fun you feel you can’t dealt with it
First of all, you need to get an understanding of exactly what the problems are. What are the specific events that trigger the upset and anger? What is your answer, and how does the situation worse, or better?What underlies the anger, anger and the challenge? Rabies is usually a response to frustration, feelings of rejection, sadness, low self esteem or fear, so that these factors are present, and how you can help the child to deal with them?
Other common factors underlying the angry child are ADHD, learning difficulties, depression or situations with peers that he or she does not know how to deal with.
There are lots of books and tapes and programs dealing with all this.Might be able to learn enough on its own to analyze things Will probably better yourself. to obtain a child psychologist to make a thorough assessment, though. your teen may be more willing to tell a third more about what’s happening. Furthermore, the psychologist probably is better able to six to understand the meaning of feelings, behaviors and events.
Parent of a angry child
Anger tends to produce rabies, so that a parent of a angry child needs to watch its behavior when the child’s anger erupts. You blow on yourself? You may not require that your child to express his anger appropriately if you, his role model, you cannot control your anger. Anger and lack of self-control in a parent is extremely alarming for children, even older ones, so if you cannot stay calm in front of the blasts of your child, it is important that you address this issue and learn how to do it, or it is unlikely that you will have much success with other tools and techniques that you learn.
Once you have a clear understanding of the whole situation, including how their behaviour plays in it, you can determine a good approach and the techniques needed to deal with your child angry.
There are many tools and programs available:
1. There are dozens of books available in the library or at the library.There are a lot of downloadable books available on the Web.
2. If you have depression or ADHD, advice and/or the medication can be useful.Autonomous individual counseling is not usually very effective, although it can be when it is accompanied by other approaches.Family advice is usually more effective.Even if your child does not, you can pick up some cooperative things.
3. a technique called “management Training” seems to be the most useful approach in most cases. one of the things that these programs teach parents is how to strengthen the positive behavior and settle the negative behavior.
4. in extreme cases, a therapeutic boarding school residential or can be a lifesaver. boarding school provides the structure and discipline and usually focuses on how to tackle the underlying causes anger, rather than only anger. address the causes is much more effective to treat the symptoms.
You should remember that there’s actually More angry, hopeless. defiant guys survive at this stage, and should be convincing productive and responsible adults law-abiding. you’ll probably be able to have a good relationship with your angry child and we know that these difficult years are simply a developmental stage that has seen him to get.
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